1a. Putting Away Childish Things~by David Seamands
July 27, 2017
The Hidden Child In Us All~Ch. I
I like the title of this chapter. A game that I vividly remember, as I am sure most of you will too, playing as a child is “Hide and Go Seek”. Every nephew or niece that I have, loved that game. There’s something about being able to hide yourself so well that no one can find you. I remember that rush of power or control when either I was the last to be found or no one could find me at all. At times, I suspect that little child who loved that game is still there inside of me, not wanting to be found. However, when things aren’t going his way he comes out of hiding and wants immediate gratification.
Usually when children don’t get their way, they immediately pull out what I call the “bag of inappropriate behavior.” For children this is normal since from the moment of birth, the world revolves around them. They want what they want yesterday. From birth to the teenage years, we are all naturally selfish. One of my Pastors from long ago did a sermon that has wedged itself in the back of my mind, and almost everyday day I think of it. The title of his sermon was “King Baby”. When King Baby showed up, the entire household became his servants. Whether the family liked it or not, the King disrupted everyone’s life. No need for details, those of you that have been blessed with the little darlings know exactly what I’m talking about. In paragraph two of chapter one in “Putting Away Childish Things” Dr. Seamands seems to agree with this thought when he quotes “William Wordsworth was right-‘The child is father of the man’”.
Dr. Seamands goes on to say in that same paragraph, “You are a complex tapestry, woven with a million strands, some of which reach back to Adam and beyond him to God who created you in His image. But many of the most important threads of who you are were introduced in your childhood, especially in the parent-child relationships.” That is not to say we get to use our parents as scapegoats and blame them for all of our problems. This is more about acknowledging that buried deep down on a sub-conscious level, there is a child hiding in all of us. You might ask why this so-called child is hiding. In my opinion, if he or she is found out, they know that there may be some discipline involved. Did you know that children are masters at manipulation? They don’t intend to be at first. But as they get older it dawns on them, “all I have to do is dance to Mom and Dad’s music from time to time, and I can run this kingdom. They give you some of what you want, in order to get all of what they want; it’s like a game for them.
However, this is not about your children, it’s about the child in you. Dr. Seamands says in paragraph three “In some people, the inner child not only survives but thrives as a bawling, brawling, sprawling character. He noisily rushes into activities he likes. He interferes with present adult life. He hurts and destroys the most meaningful relationships.” So for me, is it any wonder I’m working (successfully I might add) on my third marriage? Some of you may have had similar experiences. Who was really in control when you quit that great job because things didn’t always go as you planned? Alternatively, maybe when your neighbor offended you for the umpteenth time and you knowingly decided that you’ve had it up to here, so you just disassociated yourself from him? Think about it, was The Holy Spirit leading you in that situation? On the other hand, was your inner child using you in that moment like sock puppet?
I really would like to hear from some of you in the comment section of this page. What do you think about this hidden child?
With each of these blogs, I will conclude with 1st Corinthians 13 (NKJV):
1 “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. 13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” To be continued…